Out of My Comfort Zone

What do you do when you’re feeling anxious and depressed? Perhaps it’s not a problem for you. Perhaps you meditate or exercise or take a bath or just breathe. Me? I tend to curl up on the sofa with Netflix and maybe a glass of wine. But all that does is take my mind off things for a while. The stressful routine of a carers’ life does not work well for someone like me who thrives on variety and new challenges.

And while I can’t easily change my current circumstances, I can make little changes to my daily routine, and this week I managed several big ones!

Smallest first….

I cut my own fringe. I’m always afraid of making a complete mess of it, but no one has noticed so I think it will do until I manage to book an appointment with the hairdresser.

Meeting new people for world mental health day. Always scary. Will I make a complete eejit of myself due to nerves? Will I trip or spill my coffee? In fact I enjoyed myself and it was great to have a brief chat with others who are dealing with crises similar to the one in my own family.

Finally, I went wall climbing at the nearby Awesome Walls with my fabulous running group (on a day off). I must have the climbing gene, as when I was a small girl I climbed trees and rocks with no safety harness and often on my own. Not usually a problem apart from the day I fell into a hollow tree…  And some of my friends will recall that even last summer I seized the opportunity to climb a tree when no one else would. Awesome Walls looked absolutely awesome. And it was. I don’t think it will become another hobby because it’s quite time consuming and lacks variety, but as an occasional treat, bring it on!

Awesome Walls collage October 2018

So those are my three challenging reasons to be cheerful for this week. Check out more at Lakes Single Mum.

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Left Outside Alone

It’s Budget Day today in Ireland and for all I care it could be Budget Day in Outer Mongolia. I used to care. I used to march, I used to campaign for better healthcare, universal child benefit, better services for disabled children and adults. And what has happened? Almost nothing. Even though we now have a Minister for people with disabilities, very little has changed, except for the lucky few.

I can no longer bear to listen to most politicians, as they don’t sound genuine any more. I feel ashamed of my former profession – public relations – which was supposed to be about good clear communications, but is now about spin. When a trained politician speaks you cannot trust that anything is true, what they say, how they say it, or even the tone of their voice, because everything has been rehearsed and planned, and that goes for many representatives of organizations and companies too.

On the other hand, I do think that most politicians work extremely hard, and don’t get credit for that. I think many go into politics with high ideals, but lose their way, due to the shiny baubles of power, influence and pay. Just look at our current President, who said he was only going for one term, but is now looking to be re-elected for another seven years. People tell me he’s doing a good job, and I suppose we should at least be thankful that he hasn’t done anything bad or embarrassing.

I’m expecting the Budget to be all about throwing money at as many people and organizations as possible to keep them quiet, then taking it back in increased indirect taxes and charges for services. More complexity to keep accountants, lawyers and public servants in their jobs. There will be no vision, no grand plan, no hope of any real change And certainly nothing significant for disabled people or their carers.  We’re left outside alone.

The problem in Ireland for many people isn’t high taxes or low welfare, it’s the high cost of living and poor services. Money cannot buy the services my children need for example, because they don’t exist!

Respite for B is a good example. As a family in crisis we were given a Case Manager, and one of the items on the agenda was respite. She’s very lucky now to have a personal assistant who brings her on an outing every second Sunday, and it’s been suggested that the respite box has now been ticked and it’s likely that there will be no overnight respite because it is simply not available for adults with her high care needs. Lack of real respite means I haven’t slept properly for years, can’t go away on my own, can’t go to family weddings, comfort sick relatives in person, or support friends in need. At the moment I can’t even go out in the evening because of the problems affecting my youngest. And that’s just one of the many many problems that seem insoluble. Even my eldest daughter is affected, I need her help when she is at home, and she worries about the future and what demands will be placed on her.

You see the State has very little interest in families like mine unless a crisis happens, and then they wring their hands and offer just enough to try and stop things getting worse. We’re just considered dead weight. Outside society, outside the economy. Not of interest. Especially not of interest to Ministers of Finance who are only interested in balancing the books and pleasing their own supporters.

 

 

Reasons to be Cheerful 5.10.18

Once again I’m so thankful to Becky and Michelle for hosting Reasons to be Cheerful, and reminding me to look for them: This week has been mostly about self-care to enable me to keep going as a carer.

#MagicOfOctober – this Instagram challenge from theclotheslines.ie is distracting me from other thoughts as I try to find something to fit each day’s prompt.
Instagram #MagicOfOctober
Bargains – chocolate counts as self-care I think, and what could be better than a bargain 10 cent bar I found in my local Tesco!

Zumba – I know I’ve mentioned Zumba before, but dancing is proven to be good for the soul, mental health, and brain health too, and it’s the one weekly fixture I hate to miss.

Running – a lot of running happened this week. Beginning with an assisted run with B on Saturday at a nearby Parkrun, when we got to test a real running buggy, and I hope to blog about that experience properly soon. On Monday I went for a run along the Royal Canal with a pal, and yesterday I was absolutely delighted with this result from a training run with my Phoenix Park running group.

Strava Phoenix Park Run October 2018

Hope you have a great week xx